Mother’s of Bullied Students on Oprah

The mothers of Carl Walker-Hoover and Jaheem Herrera will be on the Oprah Winfrey Show on Wednesday, May 6th.

Check it our here.

If you do not know who these young men are, refer to my previous two posts.

Heavy Hearted

My last post was about a boy named Karl Walker Hoover. A 6th grade boy that was bullied so much that he decided to commit suicide. Last night I was watching the news, and they were reporting on a boy named Jaheem Herrera from the Atlanta area.

My heart is heavy. Jaheem took his life this week because of the relentless bullying he endured. You can read the AJC story HERE. When will we (parents, educators, doctors, family, ect.) begin to pay acknowledge that this is a problem. Bullying is not some right of passage. It doesn’t happen to everyone. It’s not just meaningless words that kids brush off. It cuts to the core.

As a youth worker, these cases trouble me greatly. God give me wisdom when I encounter these situations.

Bullying: “When Words Can Kill”

I am getting sick of hearing students in our youth ministry verbally attack one another, and talk about other people outside of our community in a negative manner. I have come so close to reacting in a very negative way. It is only by God’s grace that I have not made a complete buffoon of myself in front of the students.

I don’t think they realize the power of their words. I was reminded once again while watching CNN’s AC360 this evening that…

WORDS CAN KILL.

My heart is broken tonight.

Read the full article here.

Life…

So, you can tell by my last post that I had good intentions. Then life happens.

The last few weeks have been absolutely Crazy (notice the capital “C”). Here is what has happened:

-We had a confirmation retreat and celebrated confirmation Sunday with 12 sixth graders

-Lisa saw the doctor and is scheduled for surgery Thursday

-Noah is leaving for a 10-day trip to Spain with my parents tomorrow

-I have been pulled in a 100 different directions

-I stopped reading “Crazy Love” by Francis Chan

-Read “Ragamuffin Gospel” by Brennan Manning in preparation for a series of lectures he is going to be giving in Moultrie, GA (a town near Albany)

-Found out that Brennan Manning canceled all speaking engagements through May due to illness (remember him in your prayers)

-My computer crashed, and I spent 7 hours working to get it fixed (Apple has incredible customer service)

-I have now lost a total of 37 pounds since the beginning of the year (only 33 more to meet my goal)

-Traveled to the west coast with Mike Johnson and visited southern Cali, and SLC, Utah (yes, we skied)

I know there is more, but I am to tired to remember it all. Really looking forward to our trip to ATL next week to hang out with friends and family.

crazy love

i was captivated and challenged by francis chan this year at the national youth workers’ convention in nashville. he made it o.k. to acknowledge that there are many of us who think that there is something seriously wrong with the american church. i have walked around with that thought in my heart for a few years now. it was refreshing to hear someone ask about that in an open forum, and see so many in agreement.

in response to that sermon and at the suggestion of others, i began reading crazy love by francis chan yesterday. i want to publicly journal as i walk through this book. i do not consider myself an academic, so please do not expect me to expound deep wisdom. nor is my purpose to review this book, i’ll leave that to the professionals.

my goal is to respond to the text as i sense God stirring within me. that is my prayer in this process, that God will stir up the passion for Him that i know is trapped in my soul. there is something that keeps me from shouting out His name, and i want the freedom and the boldness to do just that.

testimony

last night was one of those special moments in ministry for me. even though weeks of planning, hours of set-up, and support from staff members had occurred in preparation, something bigger was happening. it was evident that God was working in and through the lives of those who came to share their victories and struggles.

i remember as a kid being in church, and people getting up and sharing a testimony. people would share about how God was working in their lives, or in certain situations they faced. these testimonies taught me several things about the Christian life and community that i have come to cherish.

in the Christian life there will be great days of rejoicing as you walk in God’s path, but you will also face many struggles. you will be tested in your faith. you will have times when you wonder if God has abandoned you. sometimes your prayers will be answered in the way you hoped, but in other times the will of God just will not make sense to you.

when trust and love abound in the community, we celebrate God’s good works in the lives of others, but we also come and share our burdens. we share how we have grown in our faith, but we also ask our brothers and sisters for help in a time of struggle. in such a setting, we feel safe to open ourselves up to others and let down our guard. we become genuine.

that is what happened last night. through a conversation i had with a senior high student, this idea was born. she and i had a discussion about relationships, dating, sexuality and spirituality. when we were done, she told me that she wished that i could have this same discussion with the entire senior high group. as we continued our discussion we came up with the idea of hosting dinner. during the dinner, couples would come and share how decisions they had made affected their relationships. they would give a testimony.

so last night we hosted a dinner, decorated a room, invited our friends and listened to three couples as they shared their stories. they were honest and open, and there was a sense of complete trust between the couples and audience of students. their stories were all very different but a common theme arose, our sexuality is tightly interwoven with our spirituality. it is virtually impossible to separate the two. that’s the way God designed it. it was beautiful to sit there and witness this evening unfold.

thank you to my fellow co-workers who were not only supportive, but also excited about this unique event. thank to all the parents and adult leaders who came to serve the students, and to the kitchen staff who prepared a great meal. finally, thank you to the couples who came and shared your triumphs and struggles. with the help of God’s Holy Spirit you spoke to the hearts of all in attendance.

“as iron sharpens iron,

so one person sharpens another.”

Proverbs 27:17

contemplative binder clips

even in the small city environment in which i now find myself people are busy. i have to remind myself that this is a reality for those around me. i compare everything to my life in atlanta, so i find the pace in albany pleasant. i have yet to be overwhelmed by the pace of life. yes i am busy at times, but having a 2 mile commute to the kids’ school or church makes all the difference. even with this certain simplicity to life, we still need times to be still.

once a month we gather as a community to be still. we worship through song, reading scripture, we spend time in contemplative silence, we pray ancient prayers and we share in Holy Communion. we usually go to the chapel in our church for this time of worship, but this week we did something different. through a brain storming conversation between two co-workers and myself we ended up creating a tent, a tabernacle of worship.

we used a bunch of sheets, binder clips, some area rugs, a rugged table, some burlap and candles. i loved seeing the reaction on some of the faces as they entered into the tent to worship. some students requested that we leave it up as a permanent structure. creating mystery and wonder in worship is so impacting on a student’s life. there is so much to unpack from last night. i look forward to next month’s meeting, and for the mystery that lies ahead.

catch up

i have been in a tail spin since the national youth workers’ convention. i am finally getting caught up, but it has not been a pleasant experience. this week has been a big pile of elephant dung. it just hasn’t been a good week thus far. some of it i brought on myself, and other things are just discouraging bits of news that have made it to me.

there is nothing more discouraging in ministry than hearing that people are talking about issues they see in ministry and never come to the person who is responsible. what makes it even more discouraging is that i have practically begged for people to come talk to me and no one has. i have made myself available in numerous ways. i have offered to go to homes, lunch after church, meet at church, whatever is most convenient for our members. i have had one person tell me they wanted to get together and would get back to me. that’s the last i heard.

enough with the pity party.

on the positive front i have been recording a weekly podcast with my very good friends josh cook and sara liebross. this has been the one definite high light of my work week. it is published on josh’s blog youth hacks. check it out if that’s your sort of thing.

another exciting piece of news is a d-now weekend that i have been working on with several other youth workers. we now have 12 churches coming together in our area to worship and serve our community. i am looking forward to the big weekend at the end of february.

finally, i have teamed up with a guy who grew up in our church and is now a college graduate. in short, he took his double major from UGA and is working with kids at the local boys and girls club. he also decided to move into their neighborhood. very inspiring. a group of students and parents went over and helped him clean out the abandoned house he and a friend will live in and use for ministry purposes.

if you pray for me, please pray that God will help me to be patient and that i will wait on His timing.

retrospect

this year has truly been a year of transition in my life. i spent the last several weeks processing where i have come from and where i currently find myself. my heart is filled with overflowing joy. the opportunities afforded me are beyond anything i could have ever hoped for or dreamed.

are there struggles? yes.
are all things as i expected? of course not.

one thing is for certain, i am here by divine appointment. not that my coming to albany is what this church needed, but that i am being transformed and reworked as a youth worker. i came to serve, but i feel like i am getting the most out of the relationship.

my greatest joy in this new year is this: for the first time in my life as a youth minister i have a vision and goal that are born out of the deepest parts of my soul. there are still details to figure out, but i know where i am going and what i am doing. now i just need to practice some quality soul care. this has been and will continue to be a long journey, but God has surrounded me with some incredible companions.

i am second

 

i learned of a new website through adam mclane (a blogger i read). iamsecond.com contains some very well produced testimonies. the videos were put together by filmmakers at ditore mayo entertainment. i hope you take the time to view a few of them. really good stuff.

i love the fact that it’s not another cheesy Christian product. these videos have depth, and they are very well produced. i also appreciate that the site provides a way for someone who might come across these testimonies to respond.